The other day I was ranting to my mom about how much my life has changed in my 30's -- my body is acting weird, I found some gray hairs, this is NOT how expected my life to be.... blah blah surprisingly she let me go on without any interruptions. Upon my completion she calmly responded "you need to chuck it up and realize you are a grown ass woman." *Well Damn* she was right! 33 has taught me so much unfortunately I fell into a slump, I was disappointed in myself for the latter part of the year because after a good run at entrepreneurship I had to return to Corporate America in 2015 because I needed more stability for my family and I. I got over the fact that I spent most of my 30's dating a grown boy and stop beating myself up over that failed relationship. Most importantly I grew more spiritually and gained a better understanding of WHO Arkeedah was.
Now with 17 days until my 34 Birthday I'm sharing somethings I've already started to let go of to become a better person for myself, friends and family.
- I Let go of the need to always feel comfortable. – get comfortable with being uncomfortable. All growth begins at the end of your comfort zone.
- The fantasy of perfection. – If you want to get really good at something, let go of the notion of perfection and replace it with the notion of endless playful exploration.
- Thinking there is a perfect time. – You can’t keep waiting for the perfect moment – it doesn’t exist. You must dare to do it today because life is too short to wonder what could have been.
- Removing anything that doesn't make my soul smile and grow.
- Feeling like I'm not making progress fast enough.
- Past Mistakes
- Excessive worrying. – Worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace and potential. Stop over-thinking everything. Life is too short.
- Ungrateful thoughts. – Happiness never comes to those who don’t appreciate what they have.
- One-sided relationships. – If someone truly cares about you, they won’t make you feel like you need to constantly fight for their attention.
- People who have never been here for me. – It’s during the toughest times of your life that you’ll get to see the true colors of the people who say they care about you.
- Negative influences. – You can’t expect to feel good if you surround yourself with negativity. Be with those who bring out the best in you, not the stress in you.
- Petty arguments. – You can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you. All you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around.
- Putting everyone else's needs in front of my own.
- Letting go of yesterday. – Don’t let yesterday steal your present.
- Thinking that giving up means failure. – Giving up and moving on are two very different things.
- Life’s little annoyances. – Don’t let dumb little things break your happiness.
- Not carrying other people's burdens
- Stress
- The notion that life is fair. – If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself.
- Ok so real talk, I really wanted this list to be 34 things but once I got to writing I didn't have that many and to be honest the title sounds better with 34 rather than 19 :)
Welp, well it's time for me to find my Tiara and get ready for my big day! Until next time folks
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